is yet to be determined, I suppose. My time abroad has shaped and transformed me...but as of yet, I can't determine exactly how. So here are some indications, and one day I'll know what they mean.
-I've spent an incredible amount of time alone. Time on public transport, out in public, in cafes, etc. Time simply observing, thinking (way too much at times), reading, running, walking, listening to music, writing, drawing. But all on my own. My solitude has become incredibly personal and dear to me.
-You know that instinct where you want to tell someone something, anything? Well I hardly have that anymore. There are few things that necessitate my needing to converse about them, at least not immediately. Admittedly, this has gotten me into trouble...because sometimes I forget that my friends need me to ask, to be more engaged.
-I spend the greater part of each day outdoors or in the public sphere. I've begun to wonder how exactly I will be able to adjust to living indoors again. Most likely I am going to need a running buddy or a good gym to work off the stress from too much time indoors. I am certainly going to miss those quiet reprieves I enjoy multiple times a day in parks, next to the ocean, etc.
-I've observed so many different people, taken in all of their stories and faces. I don't exactly know what to do with those now...it feels like the strangers have become as dear as my sweet friends here. And I can't figure out how to "place" those in my mind, in my future, in my memories.
-Doing everything in another language is so enjoyable for me. It makes each day more challenging, but more rewarding also. When I was home at Christmas, my mind felt so disengaged. I didn't have to work for anything, at least verbally. And I held no mystery in another tongue...I am just another U.S. American who speaks English.
-After two years away, I would be naïve to think my friendships had not changed at home. I'm just beginning to understand this one, but I know it will have more weight when I return. My friendships here are coming to their fruition, and I have yet to know what their continuance will look like. My friendships, the genuinely close ones, are still in tact in the States. It will look different though; we are all on such vastly different pages of life. I hope there is room for me in your lives again. And I hope to meet some new friends also; perhaps it would aid me to start at square one with someone.
-Dating relationships are not appealing to me right now. At all. Especially after this last year, I need some time to heal and be renewed. One thing I know: things will be different next time, they must be. No more wasting time on the ones who don't know themselves, let alone what they want.
-There are not sufficient means to express my gratitude for the time I have been given in Lisbon. These years have been filled with personal growth, exploration, challenges, and beautiful things. I feel so fortunate every time I ride that train by the sea, every time I meet friends for coffee, every time I am surprised by beauty. These months will provide me with years of sweet memories.
(from shore)
21.3.10
7.3.10
how to plan...
a budget, as a u.s. american (female) living in europe:
1. substitute the make-up category with skin care products. it's all about preserving natural beauty, not covering it up. gurrrrrrlll, show-off that pretty skin of yours!
2. come to terms with the fact that a great deal of your budget will go to coffee and pastries. it's ok, you'll walk it off! coffee shops are the hub of communities, so dive in!
3. if you won't have a vehicle, go ahead and start a "new pants fund"...between the food with fewer preservatives and self-powered transportation (walking), you're going to change size.
4. sometimes you are going to need to go to the movies. honestly, it will make you feel connected with home in some way. and it's nice to hear some English, laugh a little, and relax.
5. plan to cut back on eating out, for multiple reasons. firstly, eating out over here will cost more, so it's better to save it for special times. secondly, your money will go much farther by stocking up at the grocery store and preparing homemade meals. besides, cooking will become a stress-reliever, promise!
6. purchase some earplugs...in case you, like me, end up living below a married couple ;)
7. bring along or buy a pair of hard-soled shoes; it will be the best investment you make here! hard-bottomed shoes you make the rocky world go round!
8. put some money aside to see things. it is easy to spend money on everyday purchases and clothes, but far more worthwhile to put some aside for special outings: concerts, vacations, museums, etc.
9. get a webcam or vonage phone! it makes a world of difference to be able to contact those you love.
10. try to cut back on the unnecessary purchases...europe is a great place to simplify the things in our lives, to appreciate making a lot out of a little, and to place our treasures in things that last: community, relationships, quality time, etc.
1. substitute the make-up category with skin care products. it's all about preserving natural beauty, not covering it up. gurrrrrrlll, show-off that pretty skin of yours!
2. come to terms with the fact that a great deal of your budget will go to coffee and pastries. it's ok, you'll walk it off! coffee shops are the hub of communities, so dive in!
3. if you won't have a vehicle, go ahead and start a "new pants fund"...between the food with fewer preservatives and self-powered transportation (walking), you're going to change size.
4. sometimes you are going to need to go to the movies. honestly, it will make you feel connected with home in some way. and it's nice to hear some English, laugh a little, and relax.
5. plan to cut back on eating out, for multiple reasons. firstly, eating out over here will cost more, so it's better to save it for special times. secondly, your money will go much farther by stocking up at the grocery store and preparing homemade meals. besides, cooking will become a stress-reliever, promise!
6. purchase some earplugs...in case you, like me, end up living below a married couple ;)
7. bring along or buy a pair of hard-soled shoes; it will be the best investment you make here! hard-bottomed shoes you make the rocky world go round!
8. put some money aside to see things. it is easy to spend money on everyday purchases and clothes, but far more worthwhile to put some aside for special outings: concerts, vacations, museums, etc.
9. get a webcam or vonage phone! it makes a world of difference to be able to contact those you love.
10. try to cut back on the unnecessary purchases...europe is a great place to simplify the things in our lives, to appreciate making a lot out of a little, and to place our treasures in things that last: community, relationships, quality time, etc.
2.3.10
when in doubt, laugh...
so this is the secret to surviving in a foreign country...well, at least it's my secret, anyway. I wish I could express how many times a week I am confused about what exactly someone has just said to me. but rather than ask each and every time for them to repeat things, I have learned that a giggle and a smile go a long way. now, I realize this does get me into trouble on occasion. but seriously, it is a wayyyy better alternative! that way, they think I think they are funny, I can pretend I heard whatever I want, and it makes for great laughs later on (when I actually realize what they said!).
case in point: at our cafe downstairs, the owner asked my roommate and I if we were the daughters of a 27 yr. old English taxi cab driver that he knows. in confusion, we just laughed and walked out of the cafe. later on, I realized what he had said...what was I to say?! "why yes, my father did in fact give our mother conception when he was 4!" nope, no response necessary (except laughter). so the cafe staff thinks Lindsey and I are sisters, English, and biological freaks. ehhhhh, oh well :)
case in point: at our cafe downstairs, the owner asked my roommate and I if we were the daughters of a 27 yr. old English taxi cab driver that he knows. in confusion, we just laughed and walked out of the cafe. later on, I realized what he had said...what was I to say?! "why yes, my father did in fact give our mother conception when he was 4!" nope, no response necessary (except laughter). so the cafe staff thinks Lindsey and I are sisters, English, and biological freaks. ehhhhh, oh well :)
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